How kinky are Born-Agains?? - Talk About Marriage

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Ok, hypothetical situation here: I meet a hot girl who is a very strong born-again Christian. We date, we fall in love and we get married. We wait until the wedding night to consumate our relationship. Obviously from person to person sexual tastes/prowess in the sack will differ. But are there 'guidelines' a born-again Christian will not cross in sexual relations with a spouse?

Can't speak for ALL, obviously, but here are the answers in my marriage.

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I'm not talking rape-fantasies or anything that is way out there.

This would definitely be a "no way" for us. A little hair pulling, spanking is fine, but not getting carried away.

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But what about oral/anal sex?

Oral - yes
Anal - no

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Mutual masterbation?

Probably would if my husband was up for it, but otherwise, no. Most Christians I know still adhere to "no masturbation"

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For instance would a really strong Christian wife be against anal sex with the sin of sodomy in the bible and what not?

I think that's probably likely for some. Others, it is the risk factors that come with anal sex, including pain, tearing, infections, etc.

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What about role-playing? Would that be considered sinful as the two of you are pretending to be people you are not, and in effect, lusting after someone else and commiting adultery/fornication in your heart etc etc etc?

No role-playing here. Pretty much the reason you said. I mean, dressing up in sexy lingerie is fine, but to pretend you are a specific actress or actor or whatever, even the girl at the local Starbuck's... no.

In addition to this, no third, fourth, etc. parties involved either.

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Or in a marriage is it a free-for-all in terms of what you and your wife can/can't do in the marital bed?

Not a free-for-all, but I think it is best if you make your preferences known ahead of time so you aren't blindsided after the vows. Some are even strictly against toys, some are not. As you said at the beginning "each is different".

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